Love on the Spectrum


The past few days I've not been feeling the best, so I've been watching a lot of TV and listening to a lot of books. (I've now surpassed my reading goal by 5 books.) One of the shows I've started watching was Love on the Spectrum - a Netflix series based on romance and relationships within the autistic community.

Some of you may be aware that I was diagnosed with Aspergers when I was 28. For a lot of people, a diagnosis of Aspergers might feel like a kick in the teeth, but for me, it was like a homecoming. I finally felt like I could understand myself and my past more thoroughly. As Aspergers (and autism in general) presents differently in females, and because I seemed to be able to mostly function normally, people just thought I was an odd duck. And I am an odd duck, but there's now an explainable reason for it.

The more I watch of the series, the more I see how I kind of "lucked out" with finding someone, I guess you could say.

I was newly 16 when my partner and I met. My social skills were poor at best, and I'm terrible at reading body language, but despite that I'd had quite a few relationships prior to meeting my partner. We met on the internet through a classmate of mine, and within a month or so of meeting, I'd dropped out of high school and we moved in together.

Strangely enough, we had almost gone to the same high school - he went to a private high school, and I went to a public high school. I had wanted to go to the private school, but being as poor as we were (there were many times growing up where we weren't even sure we could make the mortgage payments on our house), we couldn't afford the tuition. Had I gone to that school, we never would have gotten together.

Despite many problems, though, we worked well together. Also on the spectrum, it worked out that his "special interest" was being an entrepreneur.

Since we married, we've had three kids, two of which have been diagnosed on the spectrum, with my youngest's diagnosis still being up in the air. So far she seems to be fairly neurotypical.

I say all of this to say that love on the spectrum is not easy, but it's possible, and sometimes it happens in the oddest fashion, so if a relationship is on your list of goals, don't give up.

I think my next few posts will be centered around the topics of my certain conditions followed by random posts about my life in the past, as a kind of "getting to know Indie" series.

Stick around if you'd like to know more!

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